Welcome to another glimpse into my mind. Friday is my normal "weigh in"day. I start dreading it on Thursday. I have decided that I am taking a break from trying to loose weight and just maintain. Because really I feel good where I am, and I want to move forward. I don't want to look back at my life and think that I wasted too much time worrying about weight.
So, this week has not been a week of healthy food choices. I want to blame Memorial day and it being that time of the month, but I'm all about taking responsibility for your choices. However, hormones do play a huge role, so I'm not going to discount that. Knowing that I have eaten poorly and that my hormones are out of wack I don't want to get on the scale tomorrow. Is it so wrong for me to skip a week? I mean seriously I haven't skipped getting on the scale for years, and have been on the scale so much during a week or a day even that this one time won't hurt-right? It's not going to make me feel better to get on the scale. Will I feel better if I make better choices, listen to my body and then check in next week? I'm looking for support here. Do I need to have the kick in the but that getting on the scale will give me tomorrow, or do I kick myself in the butt enough without that? I'm so afraid of being out of control, but the scale doesn't give me more control. Its just a number, its not who I am. Help! Tell me its ok to skip the scale this week, make better choices and see a more true reflection next week. Please.
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Okay, here we go... (not really having any idea myself about what I'm about to say)...
Before I started WW several years ago I had to weigh myself EVERY day. It's who I was for decades! The first two weeks after starting, the .2 up and .4 down and .8 up was wreaking havoc on me! I had to commit to stepping on the scale once per week MAX. It went well, then I stopped WW. Not because of stopping WW, not because of stepping off the scale, but for many other reasons unrelated to weight, I gained a TON back. When I started the WW plan again in March I once again stepped on the scales every Sunday morning, naked. (I apologize to any of you who actually just had a visual, that wasn't very nice of me).
A few weeks ago (yes, there's a reason I'm not talking about my weight on my own blog) I stopped the plan. I think we went on vacation for a few days. And there was spring break. And then something else. Anyway, I haven't been on the scale that entire time. Kendall asked the other day if I had and all I could say was "heck no! I don't want to see how high that number is!"
So what's the moral of my story? I think we sometimes beat ourselves up too much by stepping on when we know it's going to hurt our feelings. I also believe that it's really easy to not get back on once you've stepped off. I don't think there's anything at all wrong with you not weighing tomorrow. NONE! However, before you empower yourself, which is definitely what I think you'd be doing by taking that leap, make sure you have a handle on exactly when it is you want to get back on, regardless of the numbers.
My vote: skip the scale tomorrow, make better choices and get back on next week EVEN if it reflects your poor choices from before. You need to have another starting point regardless of the number, or else you might not want to face it again. (Speaking from personal experience of course).
You look great, by the way! I admire you so much for continuing to make healthy choices. Keep up the great work, Em!
I am reminded of the time a few years ago that I waited out on the curb for the garbage man to come and I threw my scale away. I had decided to earlier in the week, but I knew I would probably fish it back out, so I had to wait until garbage day. It was definitely a feeling of empowerment! After having Haven I decided to get a new scale so I could manage my progress. Things have been different this time. The scale does mess with my head a little bit, but like you said, it is just a number and does not define who you are.
It is so interesting how we spend so much time thinking about how the number on the scale determines what kind of job we have done(good or poor). I don't find myself doing this in other facets of my life. I don't look at my pile of laundry and think how horrible of a mother I am because it is not done. I don't look at my list of projects and think that I am a failure because they are not all checked off. Get the drift. . . I could go on and on. However, the feelings you have about weighing in are a very real thing. But it is just a week out of the many weeks of the year, years, or forever. You are not failing yourself or anyone by not getting on. Remember, how WW had those passes to get out of weighing that week? It is OK! But, then there is the whole being accountable thing. Do you feel bad if you don't balance your check book every week, probably not. Do you feel bad if you don't return a phone call, or email, maybe not! Remember, it is your choice to get on or not. I am not going to vote either way, because it is up to you. But either way it doesn't really matter because you are still the most amazing, beautiful, compassionate, smart, and loving friend that I admire so much. So if the number is up, or down, you will still be you, and that is a wonderful thing to be!
Love you!
Here's something I told my cute boy cousin in an email last night... he's a new missionary, kind of frustrated that the goals he sets aren't always met at the end of the month. Here's what I came up with and I believe it applies to everything in our lives...
"Keep in mind that goals aren't goals so that we can reach them perfectly each time.... they are created to give us a focus on what we want and to keep us working faithfully to reach them. If you don't quite make it, the IMPORTANT part is if you truly worked your tail off trying to get there. So don't get down on yourself, just keep up the good work and you'll be blessed! Remember that discouragement is Satan's #1 tool to get us, and it works so well most of the time. Just keep that happiness inside and continue to set goals. Sometimes you'll reach them, sometimes you won't, but the continual work is what counts!
Thanks you two. I really needed your words. I got on the scale. Definitely bad news, but I have a whole week before me now. Keep moving forward.
So I know I am late, but here are my thoughts...
skipping the scale for 1 week isn't going to kill you, skipping it weeks in a row (or months in my case) may be detrimental. If you just need a break, take it, knowing that you are prepared to be accountable next week.
Good luck - you do look great by the way.
I wish my scale would say what your scale says! But you do look great Em and I think you do have a handle on your choices and they always seem to be pretty good ones. Love ya!
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